Autism and puberty equals mom going insane

My daughter is eleven. I knew it was going to happen one day but I had hoped it would still be a few years. Sadly, I can see the signs that puberty is showing it's ugly head. Grouchiness is a common trend lately. I don't even have to really say anything. I just look in her general direction and I get some lip and a dagger shot my way.

I should be thankful it is just some backtalk and grouchiness. I am terrified when she fully experiences puberty. She has a thing about baby slobber and other bodily fluids, I cannot even imagine how she is going to react to having a period. She knows what it's all about, but knowing and having are two different things.

Maybe now is the time I should take up a hobby( joining a wine of the month club perhaps) to help me make it through the next few challenging years. Deciphering between what is from puberty and what is from autism is becoming quite the challenge. I could use any advice from moms who have already experienced this joyful time of life(please note my sarcasm). How am I going to remain sane? How am I going to help her deal?